Today I received an email from Marc de Bruin. I’ve included an excerpt below.
It has a wonderful process in it I want to share.
If you like it or want to check out other amazing information he has to offer, pop over to his site. ( landmarc.info)
How do you release mental and emotional blocks?
Well, here’s a 6 step Repeatable Awareness and Implementation
Process that’s crucial to creating more “knowareness” (knowing
and awareness), and that will be the deciding first step towards
releasing your brakes.
1) List at least 5 times or instances where you have sold
yourself short in business, or have lowered your own morals
and/or integrity
2) List at least 5 areas in your business where you know you
can play “bolder”, where you can grow (public speaking, sales
skills, products, etc.)
3) Clearly identify your intention with your business; what do
you aim to do and achieve, if there were no limitations? E.g. I
intend to turn over $1,000,000 by the end of this year.
4) List 5 “intentions” or beliefs relative to this bold
intention that are in conflict. E.g. I want to turn over $1m this
year vs I don’t know if I am good enough to run a profitable
business.
5) Brainstorm at least 10 ways to either grow yourself (so
your intentions align) or to outsource elements of your business
you know are not your forte (so others can help you without you
compromising yourself).
6) Implement at least 3 of your brainstorm results
immediately!!
One of my taglines is “Awareness is Key”, and I totally believe
that to be true. In order to change, one needs to have awareness
of what needs changing!
Marc de Bruin
Website: http://www.landmarc.info/
source : http://www.mindsetisthekey.com/2010/04/15/how-to-release-mental-and-emotional-blocks/
Friday, January 14, 2011
How Parents can help a child’s Self Esteem
Studies show that high self-esteem is the #1 ingredient essential
for developing happiness, fulfillment, rich relationships, and
overall success in life. In the life of every child, usually
sometime between birth and age 6, something happens to have the
child doubt him or herself. Someone says or does something that has
the child believe that he or she is flawed, unlovable, not worthy,
imperfect.
This initial stressful incident is the first real realization that
the child is not perfect and fails to measure up to society’s
standards in some important way. The initial upset can be one of
two types. The first assault could be an unkind word from a peer or
authority figure, a spanking, an insult, an argument, a bullying or
name calling episode. It could occur as a direct result of
something the child said or did that provoked an attack on his or
her sense of worthiness or ability to fit in.
The second type of self-esteem diminishing episode can be as a
result of the child misinterpreting someone’s words or actions to
mean that the child is flawed, unlovable, or defective in some way.
In such a case, no insult or demeaning connotation was intended.
The facts were that someone said or did something. The child
mistakenly made up that there was something wrong with him or her
as a result of what was said or done.
Daily, there are hundreds of opportunities for a child to
misinterpret life in a way that tarnishes their self-image over the
long term. A common example of such a misinterpretation can be when
parents get divorced. What happened was the adults fell out of love
or realized that they wanted to separate. What the child made up
was that if he had only been a better boy and did a better job
cleaning his room, or picking up his toys, mom and dad wouldn’t
have fought so much and would still be together. The child may make
up that he is bad and people leave him because of this.
Another example of this faulty reasoning might be an episode where
the parents drop off a child for a week with a relative. Perhaps
they feel they need a vacation or might need to tend to some
business matter and decide that it would be easier for the child to
be minded by a sitter. The child makes up that his parents don’t
love him and that people want to get rid of him. With this sort of
tendency toward faulty interpretation, there are literally
thousands of opportunities for the child to attach a meaning to the
situation that begins the process of eroding self-esteem.
The process of diminished self-esteem does not stop at such an
initial decision regarding the child’s value. The child, armed with
the belief that she is not good enough, now scans for additional
situations that may serve as more evidence to reinforce this
initial thought of being flawed. During such potentially upsetting
events, the child reinforces this idea of unworthiness by further
interpreting life events to prove the fact that she is defective.
After years of accumulating such evidence, their self-image
deteriorates further with every episode. Before long, there is no
doubt in the person’s mind that there is something wrong with them.
After all, they have created a self-fulfilling prophesy to cement
this belief firmly in their self-perception.
Parents can do much to support their children to feel good about
themselves and to champion their child’s self-image. They can
continually reinforce the concept that no one is perfect and all
one can do is their best. They can be a source of unconditional
love, supporting the child at every opportunity and encouraging
them to see themselves as worthy of affection, abundance, love, and
trust. They can make sure that the child understands that they, as
parents, might not always agree with the child’s behavior. However,
they can continually reinforce that the child is NOT their
behavior. Everyone makes mistakes and life is a process of learning
and growing. No matter what mistakes the child makes, he or she
must realize that they are always inherently good, lovable, and
worthy.
Parents can continually reinforce that they love their children
unconditionally. Children need to realize that even when they make
mistakes and parents do not approve of their behavior, this does
not affect their love for them or their sense of value. Children
will benefit from knowing that they are loved for who they are, not
just what they do.
Parents can speak respectfully to their children, reassuring them
of their competence, capability, and inherent value. They can
empower them to make their own choices whenever possible, fostering
their belief in their own ability to make wise decisions and learn
from any mistakes. They can give them responsibilities that nurture
their self-confidence and belief in their abilities. Whether that
looks like making their bed, helping with household chores, or
selecting their favorite juice at the grocery store, each can serve
as an opportunity for the child to grow in self-confidence.
Parents can consistently acknowledge their children for worthwhile
qualities they see in them. They can get into the habit of finding
something good about them every day and pointing it out. Parents
can support their children to see what might be missing for them to
be more effective with other people or in accomplishing their
goals. Rather than focusing on their weakness and faults, they can
empower their strengths and communicate that everyone has unique
talents and gifts that make them special. They can support children
to identify their passions and pursue their special interests and
develop their gifts.
Parents can teach their children to interpret life with empathy.
They can support them to imagine what it is like in another
person’s world so they can better understand why people do the
things they do. They can support their children to not take the
reactions of others personally. When children realize that no one
else can make them angry, sad or afraid, only they themselves can,
they learn to not be reactive and easily provoked by others’
issues. Parents can teach their children to forgive themselves for
mistakes they make. They can teach them the value of cleaning up
any mistakes by speaking and acting responsibly. They can also
teach them to forgive others, knowing that they are doing the best
they can based upon how they see the world. This does not mean that
we condone bad behavior. It means that we can better understand why
others do hurtful things at times and separate out that they do
them rather than interpreting that they do them TO us.
Parents can teach their children to have gratitude for their
blessings in life. They can teach them that the world is an endless
source of abundance for those who believe in themselves and their
ability to attract good things. They can teach them to expect
success, happiness, rich relationships, and abundance. They can
also teach them to play full out for what they want, committed to
their goals with a vision of success without being attached to any
result.
Many mistakenly confuse high self-esteem with ego. It is important
to distinguish between fostering high self-esteem in children, as
opposed to creating ego-maniacs obsessed with themselves at the
expense of others. High overall self-esteem means being competent
and capable of producing a result in every area of life. This
includes being effective in our relationships and in our
communication with others with an appreciation for what it is like
in the world of other people. Those who care only about themselves
with no concern for others do not, by my definition, possess high
self-esteem.
It would serve parents to commit to themselves being perpetual
students of personal development, knowing that their children will
model their actions and their approach to life. It is with such an
energy of respect, love, and acceptance that children will receive
the tools they’ll need to grow into self-actualized, happy, and
self-assured adults possessing high self-esteem.
Written by Dr. Joe Rubino
centerforpersonalreinvention.com
source : http://www.mindsetisthekey.com/category/self-belief/
for developing happiness, fulfillment, rich relationships, and
overall success in life. In the life of every child, usually
sometime between birth and age 6, something happens to have the
child doubt him or herself. Someone says or does something that has
the child believe that he or she is flawed, unlovable, not worthy,
imperfect.
This initial stressful incident is the first real realization that
the child is not perfect and fails to measure up to society’s
standards in some important way. The initial upset can be one of
two types. The first assault could be an unkind word from a peer or
authority figure, a spanking, an insult, an argument, a bullying or
name calling episode. It could occur as a direct result of
something the child said or did that provoked an attack on his or
her sense of worthiness or ability to fit in.
The second type of self-esteem diminishing episode can be as a
result of the child misinterpreting someone’s words or actions to
mean that the child is flawed, unlovable, or defective in some way.
In such a case, no insult or demeaning connotation was intended.
The facts were that someone said or did something. The child
mistakenly made up that there was something wrong with him or her
as a result of what was said or done.
Daily, there are hundreds of opportunities for a child to
misinterpret life in a way that tarnishes their self-image over the
long term. A common example of such a misinterpretation can be when
parents get divorced. What happened was the adults fell out of love
or realized that they wanted to separate. What the child made up
was that if he had only been a better boy and did a better job
cleaning his room, or picking up his toys, mom and dad wouldn’t
have fought so much and would still be together. The child may make
up that he is bad and people leave him because of this.
Another example of this faulty reasoning might be an episode where
the parents drop off a child for a week with a relative. Perhaps
they feel they need a vacation or might need to tend to some
business matter and decide that it would be easier for the child to
be minded by a sitter. The child makes up that his parents don’t
love him and that people want to get rid of him. With this sort of
tendency toward faulty interpretation, there are literally
thousands of opportunities for the child to attach a meaning to the
situation that begins the process of eroding self-esteem.
The process of diminished self-esteem does not stop at such an
initial decision regarding the child’s value. The child, armed with
the belief that she is not good enough, now scans for additional
situations that may serve as more evidence to reinforce this
initial thought of being flawed. During such potentially upsetting
events, the child reinforces this idea of unworthiness by further
interpreting life events to prove the fact that she is defective.
After years of accumulating such evidence, their self-image
deteriorates further with every episode. Before long, there is no
doubt in the person’s mind that there is something wrong with them.
After all, they have created a self-fulfilling prophesy to cement
this belief firmly in their self-perception.
Parents can do much to support their children to feel good about
themselves and to champion their child’s self-image. They can
continually reinforce the concept that no one is perfect and all
one can do is their best. They can be a source of unconditional
love, supporting the child at every opportunity and encouraging
them to see themselves as worthy of affection, abundance, love, and
trust. They can make sure that the child understands that they, as
parents, might not always agree with the child’s behavior. However,
they can continually reinforce that the child is NOT their
behavior. Everyone makes mistakes and life is a process of learning
and growing. No matter what mistakes the child makes, he or she
must realize that they are always inherently good, lovable, and
worthy.
Parents can continually reinforce that they love their children
unconditionally. Children need to realize that even when they make
mistakes and parents do not approve of their behavior, this does
not affect their love for them or their sense of value. Children
will benefit from knowing that they are loved for who they are, not
just what they do.
Parents can speak respectfully to their children, reassuring them
of their competence, capability, and inherent value. They can
empower them to make their own choices whenever possible, fostering
their belief in their own ability to make wise decisions and learn
from any mistakes. They can give them responsibilities that nurture
their self-confidence and belief in their abilities. Whether that
looks like making their bed, helping with household chores, or
selecting their favorite juice at the grocery store, each can serve
as an opportunity for the child to grow in self-confidence.
Parents can consistently acknowledge their children for worthwhile
qualities they see in them. They can get into the habit of finding
something good about them every day and pointing it out. Parents
can support their children to see what might be missing for them to
be more effective with other people or in accomplishing their
goals. Rather than focusing on their weakness and faults, they can
empower their strengths and communicate that everyone has unique
talents and gifts that make them special. They can support children
to identify their passions and pursue their special interests and
develop their gifts.
Parents can teach their children to interpret life with empathy.
They can support them to imagine what it is like in another
person’s world so they can better understand why people do the
things they do. They can support their children to not take the
reactions of others personally. When children realize that no one
else can make them angry, sad or afraid, only they themselves can,
they learn to not be reactive and easily provoked by others’
issues. Parents can teach their children to forgive themselves for
mistakes they make. They can teach them the value of cleaning up
any mistakes by speaking and acting responsibly. They can also
teach them to forgive others, knowing that they are doing the best
they can based upon how they see the world. This does not mean that
we condone bad behavior. It means that we can better understand why
others do hurtful things at times and separate out that they do
them rather than interpreting that they do them TO us.
Parents can teach their children to have gratitude for their
blessings in life. They can teach them that the world is an endless
source of abundance for those who believe in themselves and their
ability to attract good things. They can teach them to expect
success, happiness, rich relationships, and abundance. They can
also teach them to play full out for what they want, committed to
their goals with a vision of success without being attached to any
result.
Many mistakenly confuse high self-esteem with ego. It is important
to distinguish between fostering high self-esteem in children, as
opposed to creating ego-maniacs obsessed with themselves at the
expense of others. High overall self-esteem means being competent
and capable of producing a result in every area of life. This
includes being effective in our relationships and in our
communication with others with an appreciation for what it is like
in the world of other people. Those who care only about themselves
with no concern for others do not, by my definition, possess high
self-esteem.
It would serve parents to commit to themselves being perpetual
students of personal development, knowing that their children will
model their actions and their approach to life. It is with such an
energy of respect, love, and acceptance that children will receive
the tools they’ll need to grow into self-actualized, happy, and
self-assured adults possessing high self-esteem.
Written by Dr. Joe Rubino
centerforpersonalreinvention.com
source : http://www.mindsetisthekey.com/category/self-belief/
Shift Your Mindset from SME to Internet Marketer
source : http://www.tripwiremagazine.com/2011/01/the-right-mindset-is-key-to-making-money-online.html
Keep it simple and fast and see if the concept works. If it does you may want to improve it and invest more of your time in areas like automation. Finally you have to accept that you cannot do everything yourself. Again it can be hard to give responsibility away and delegate important tasks to others e.g. outsourcing. However it is one of the most important elements in being able to scale your business and therefore to make it seriously profitable.
Hope you can use this advice and that it will make you more profitable in year 2011+. If you have other tips and ideas for becoming a successful online businessman I strongly urge you to leave us a comment. To your success!
Most bloggers start writing because they have a strong interest and passion for a specific topic. They either are already subject matter experts (SMEs) or develop in that direction over time. This is of cause essential as readers will be able to find useful information on the blog and they will like to come back for more. However many SMEs tend to provide information as they see it from their perspective and one of the biggest mistakes they often practice is writing about themselves, their expertise and experience. Internet Marketers in contrast does not talk about themselves that much and have learned to focus on providing solutions to problems other people desperately need to solve. They have also learned that understanding the needs of the customer and talking their language is essential. In many cases this requires you to put away the proud SME you have inside and keep your solutions very simple and basic for e.g. beginners. Use your deep knowledge and experience in you SME field to pick out what is important at a given stage and hold back advanced stuff until you know that your audience can cope with it. Another key element of this shift is to really understand the driver potential customers have. Some marketers work with the terms surface desire and core desire. The surface desire is what people think they need and the need they communicate. However there is typically a core desire to which is a lot more powerful and essential the key to making customers take action. Let’s look at an example. Let’s say you are a active angler. You have decided that you just need the new fancy super powerful bait for a fishing competition in the weekend. The surface desire is to get the bait but the core desire probably is to pull in a monster size fish to make everyone in the club think you’re good. Trying to understand and provide solutions that address the core desire is a powerful way to make an income online. This can be by selling other peoples products as an affiliate or by selling your own products.
Shift Your Mindset from employee to entrepreneur
Starting any kind of business is challenging and requires a lot from you also if you choose to build your business around internet opportunities. e.g. a blog. A very important personal things you need work with is shifting your mindset from thinking as an employee and learn how to think like an entrepreneur. Why is this so important? Because you will not be able to work your way through unless you put away the habits and expectations that employees typically have. The hardest part is probably to get used to create a lot of value for others while not necessarily getting anything back in the beginning. The employee mindset is used to work x hours and then get the reward. This is not how it works for an entrepreneur. Results may be huge for those who are patient, but it is really hard to accept if you’re in it simply for collecting quick money. If you produce high value because it is your passion to do so this is a reward in itself. However is you deliver true value money will flow your way. Another key point is to focus on the results you create. It is of cause good and necessary to work hard but it’s not the work itself that will make you wealthy. Note that working hard without reaching your goals will be complete waste of your time and efforts. You need to have a strategy and be aware of your short and long term goals e.g. 30 days, 3 month and a year. Planning and measuring your ability to reach your defined goals is critical for any business even if you are just you and yourself…Shift Your Mindset from Perfectionist to tester
OK this is the last mindset shift I will cover in this article. Going online with anything puts you in front of millions of people and I know it can be scary. However being a perfectionist because you are scared that people may not like what you are doing is one of the worst blockers to success. You see it is a dynamic market and you just have to jump in and learn. Working on your project for too long to make it perfect may risk that it is obsolete when it is finally ready. Therefore you need to become a true tester and constantly figure out what works right now, what makes your ideas and products profitable.Keep it simple and fast and see if the concept works. If it does you may want to improve it and invest more of your time in areas like automation. Finally you have to accept that you cannot do everything yourself. Again it can be hard to give responsibility away and delegate important tasks to others e.g. outsourcing. However it is one of the most important elements in being able to scale your business and therefore to make it seriously profitable.
Hope you can use this advice and that it will make you more profitable in year 2011+. If you have other tips and ideas for becoming a successful online businessman I strongly urge you to leave us a comment. To your success!
Mindset Is Key
Mindset & LifeStyle Coaching
source : http://www.mindsetisthekey.com/
Mindset and LifeStyle Coaching
Understanding how the mind works, empowers us to utilize it as the very powerful tool that it is. When we are in control of our mind, thoughts and emotions rather than the other way around, magic happens in our lives. Our state of mind, actions, responses, attitudes and emotions, while possibly the most powerful, are but a few aspects we need to understand to take control of our lives.
It has never been more important than in today’s climate, that we get creative and seek to educate ourselves on what it takes to live our Life by Design rather than Default. It is possible to live the ‘Life of our Dreams‘ and Thrive in business rather than just survive… Not just for a lucky few, but for everyone!!!
With the correct knowledge and tools, we can examine our current situation, decide where we want to be and effectively set upon the path to get from A to B. Whether it’s our finances, health, fitness, relationships, family, career…
If you don’t know where you are, you have no starting point. Unless you know where you want to be or what’s possible (or more importantly.. what will fill you daily with a sense of purpose, fulfilment & vitality) then no matter the path you take, it can never lead you to the lifestyle you desire.
A coach is your guide & support… A detached observer, providing a safe space and backing you 100% as you discover your inner strength & talents as well as empowering you with tools to break through blocks or resistance to the successful achievement of your goals.
Using a proven system for success and taking the necessary actions, you can be assured of achieving results you never imagined possible and have the Lifestyle you absolutely deserve.
Dare to Dream …
Take Action Today!!!
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Mindset is the barrier
source : http://www.thedailystar.net/newDesign/news-details.php?nid=149135
10 kilowatt solar power plant at Barkal, Rangamati. Inset Dr. Saiful HaqueAbu Raihan Rume and Dewan Mowdud Rahman took the interview for The Daily Star. They are both students of the Military Institute of Science and Technology (MIST).
Daily Star (DS): What is the present status of Renewable Energy use in Bangladesh?
Saiful Haque (SH): In Bangladesh, we are using mainly Solar, Hydro, Biogas and Biomass. Up until now, 30,000 biogas plants have been installed. Out of those, 25,000 plants are running efficiently. Others are suffering due to lack of proper maintenance. Except Dhaka, use of biogas is spreading fast all over the country. That is because it is cost-effective. Solar PV (photo-voltaic) is also becoming popular, especially in the rural households where there is no grid connection.
DS: Why have we to go for renewable source of energy? Is it not costlier than the conventional sources?
S. H.: Though in some cases it is costlier, yet if we consider the overall impact of its negative sides, then it becomes evident that use of renewable energy is more economical and environment-friendly than the conventionally produced variety as it emits minimum amount of carbon. Extraction of renewable energy involves less complexity. Proper energy conservation is another key issue.
Another flip side of conventional sources is that we have to spend a large chunk of our hard currency to import it every year. Moreover, the global reserve of fossil fuel is depleting fast.
In the circumstances, as a third world country we have little option but to go for alternative source of energy, which, in other words, are the renewable sources, in the future.
DS: What do you think should be the steps to popularise it?
S.H.: First of all, we have to change our mindset. Otherwise, popularisation of renewable energy in Bangladesh will remain a pipedream. We find no dearth of money when it is about erecting huge buildings, or changing car models, but when it comes to allocating some fund for installing a renewable energy system, the fund source runs dry. Recently, IPS (Instant Power Supply) or Generator have gained, popularity, though those are costly harmful for the environment.
DS: Is the government moving in the right direction towards promoting renewable energy option?
S.H.: In 2009, the government framed a policy to promote renewable energy option all over the country. But the task involves a number of steps and a strong monitoring mechanism. In India there is a ministry for non-conventional energy. We urged the government to create a similar ministry in Bangladesh. The government, too, has agreed to develop an authority, the Sustainable Energy Development Authority (SEDA).
The renewable energy sector should be provided with government subsidy, as it is the case with Agriculture and Education. For Renewable Energy-based power system, the battery involves 40% of the cost. So, the government should reduce the import tax on battery. The business people, on the other hand, need to refrain from creating a syndicate with the motive of making a windfall gain out of it. The government needs to monitor all these issues in earnest.TO BE CONTINUED
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